Intimate Partner Betrayal
Stop Your Past From Ruining Your Present
“Do you want another chihuahua?” asked my Lyft driver. I glanced up from scanning my Instagram feed on my phone. “Are you talking to me?” I asked. “No,” said my driver, laughing. “I’m talking to my wife.” I noticed his ear buds and realized he was on the phone. I tried not to listen to…Read More
Why You Should Have a Spiritual Practice (Even If You Don’t Believe in God, Mantras, or Crystals)
Years ago I asked a ruthless family law attorney for her top piece of legal advice. Her answer surprised me because it had nothing to do with “winning.” She told me she urged her clients to maintain their spiritual practice. Although I didn’t ask her to explain, I have a pretty good guess why she…Read More
Recovering From Your Partner’s Infidelity? Here Are 6 Things You Should Know
You’ve just discovered your partner’s infidelity or sexual addiction and life as you knew it — or thought you knew it — is gone. You wonder if you ever really knew the person. You wonder if you’ll ever trust her again. You wonder why he cheated and what his acting-out partner (or partners, online or…Read More
The Amazing Thing That Happens When You Believe That You Matter
Have you ever woken up a year (or two, or ten) into a relationship to find yourself boiling with resentment? You’re sick of feeling unappreciated and taken for granted. You do so many things to accommodate your partner, but there never seems to be much reciprocity. You keep waiting for the day when your partner…Read More
How Do I Stop Picking Partners Who Cheat On Me?
Note: While this article is primarily intended for women, men are also drawn to women who sexually betray them. In addition, not all infidelity constitutes sex addiction. Married for ten years to a charismatic man who traveled frequently for work, “Claire” had known about his compulsive porn use for five years, yet had chosen to…Read More
You Just Found Out Your Partner Is Cheating: Should You Leave?
“Stephanie” came to see me after discovering that her attorney husband “Sam” had been visiting prostitutes during his lunch hour. She learned this one night while up late with their sick toddler. Sam had forgotten to log out of his secret e-mail account, the one he used to schedule hook-ups with escorts, exotic masseuses, and…Read More